Forgive Us Our Debts

There are many different translations of the Bible, and sometimes the Bible contains different versions of the same story, parable, or prayer. One prayer that I’ve used different words for is the Lord’s Prayer. While the overall themes of the different versions  are the same, sometime the precise language speaks to me differently.

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The version of the Lords’ Prayer that we usually use in church includes this passage:

forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us

We also use a version that says:

forgive us our sins as as we forgive those who sin against us

But the version that resonates with me this week goes like this:

forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors

I had a week of carelessness, bad timing, and bad luck with banking and bill paying. I managed to bounce a check to the IRS twice, although at least the second time I was able to catch it before it got sent back to the IRS again. Then my daughter’s rent check was not received on time, so on Friday she received a nasty “summons” threatening court action if they did not receive payment in full (including a hefty late fee) within three days–i.e., by Monday.

 

I had an excuse for every mistake.

I thought the IRS check was lost, and had sent another check that already was cashed last week. But I had forgotten to put a hold on the first check. 

The rent check was sent via my bank’s on-line bill paying system, and should have arrived on time. But I had scheduled it for delivery on the last day of the grace period, instead of on the 1st of the month.

So, I found myself at the mercy of my bank’s customer service representatives (the IRS was not answering their phones due to the government shutdown!) and my daughter’s apartment leasing company.

Forgive me my debts.
I made a mistake.
Is there anything we can do now so I don’t go to jail and my daughter doesn’t get evicted?

For the most part the people at the other end of the phone were willing to listen to my tales of woe and took time to figure out how I could make the necessary payments as quickly as possible. For the IRS check, it was largely a matter of timing. I quickly made an on-line transfer from my savings account into my checking account, and was able to speak to someone who could authorize processing and payment of my rubbery check before it got returned. For my daughter’s rent, the person I spoke with had several ideas that involved trips to Western Union, 7-11, or FedEx–all of which would have involved missing my conference to find those places and paying even more fees. I was about to give up (and hope my check arrived Saturday) when he suggested that I try making an on-line payment. Apparently the on-line payment system is not supposed to work when the rent is late, but he suggested I try anyway, and took the extra step of looking up the account information so I could get into their system easily. I was relieved when it went through–and I did remember to put a hold on the first rent check so that won’t bounce too!

I am grateful for the technology that let me look up phone numbers and call the people I needed to speak with. I am grateful for the computer systems that let me take care of business when I was several hundred miles from home. But most of all, I am grateful for the people who worked with me to get my accounts straightened out.

Now that these debts have been forgiven–or at least rectified–I need to remember to forgive my “debtors,” and take the time to be kind and compassionate to others when my first tendency might be to be hurried and impatient.

Have you ever made a costly mistake?

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Where To Run In Boulder When You Are Up Before The Sun

Four Mile Boulder Creek Path Loop

Whenever I visit Boulder, I look forward to running along the Boulder Creek Path. But on this visit, I was faced with the dilemma of where to run in Boulder when I was up long before the sun.

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What I Ate Wednesday: The Anniversary Cake Editition

Yesterday was my 25th wedding anniversary. My Mom is awesome and always remembers our big day, and this time she out-did herself.

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Hiking Mount Sanitas In Boulder

Fit Social Mount Sanitas Hike

I can’t lie. One of the reasons that I was excited to go to the FitSocial conference last week was because it was held in Boulder and Denver. Although the conference sessions didn’t start until Friday, they offered a hike in Boulder on Thursday. I’ve been to Boulder a few times in the past few years, but I’ve never hiked there, so I jumped at the chance to get closer to the gorgeous mountains.

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September Reads: The Silent Wife, Where’d You Go, Bernadette?, The Yonahlossee Riding Camp For Girls

Book Reviews

I can’t believe I read three books this month. I really have gotten back into the reading habit since I set a modest goal of reading one book a month last year. I mostly read on my iPhone using the Kindle App, and as soon as I finish a book I am back on Amazon.com looking for the next one to download. The three books I read this month all involve a mystery of some kind, but they have very different moods.

My favorite book this month was The Silent Wife by A. S. A. Harrison. I actually read the paperback edition, borrowed from a friend to take on my trip to Boston.

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From the Amazon synopsis:

Jodi and Todd are at a bad place in their marriage. Much is at stake, including the affluent life they lead in their beautiful waterfront condo in Chicago, as she, the killer, and he, the victim, rush haplessly toward the main event. He is a committed cheater. She lives and breathes denial. He exists in dual worlds. She likes to settle scores. He decides to play for keeps. She has nothing left to lose. Told in alternating voices, The Silent Wife is about a marriage in the throes of dissolution, a couple headed for catastrophe, concessions that can’t be made, and promises that won’t be kept. Expertly plotted and reminiscent of Gone Girl and These Things HiddenThe Silent Wife ensnares the reader from page one and does not let go.

Note to publishers: I am not usually enticed by reviews that proclaim that a new book is “this year’s” version of a previous bestseller. Even if I liked the bestseller, I read that book. I want a new story. But, when my friend said she really enjoyed The Silent Wife, I decided to give it a chance.

I was not disappointed. The Silent Wife is similar to Gone Girl in that the narration switches between the two main characters, and they both were page-turners, but The Silent Wife tells a completely different story, and has its own twists and turns that keep you reading late into the night.

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Where’d You Go, Bernadette? by Maria Semple was a bit lighter, although it does raise some interesting issues.

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From the Amazon synopsis:

Bernadette Fox is notorious. To her Microsoft-guru husband, she’s a fearlessly opinionated partner; to fellow private-school mothers in Seattle, she’s a disgrace; to design mavens, she’s a revolutionary architect, and to 15-year-old Bee, she is a best friend and, simply, Mom. Then Bernadette disappears. …. To find her mother, Bee compiles email messages, official documents, secret correspondence–creating a compulsively readable and touching novel about misplaced genius and a mother and daughter’s role in an absurd world.

I really enjoyed the snarkiness of Bernadette’s interactions with the “fellow private-school mothers,” and while I’m not agoraphobic, I was a bit jealous of Bernadette’s resourcefulness in outsourcing most of the mundane demands of daily life. Overall, this was a fun book to read.

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The other book I read this month was The Yonahlossee Riding Camp For Girls by Anton DiSclafani.

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From the Amazon synopsis:

It is 1930, the midst of the Great Depression. After her mysterious role in a family tragedy, passionate, strong-willed Thea Atwell, age fifteen, has been cast out of her Florida home, exiled to an equestrienne boarding school for Southern debutantes. High in the Blue Ridge Mountains, with its complex social strata ordered by money, beauty, and girls’ friendships …. As Thea grapples with her responsibility for the events of the past year that led her here, she finds herself enmeshed in a new order, one that will change her sense of what is possible for herself, her family, her country. ….

This was a good book, but not my favorite–maybe because it was more serious. It is a coming-of-age story propelled by the “family tragedy” that is revealed bit-by-bit. As with most coming-of-age stories, there are some inappropriate sexual relationships. While they are probably handled as they would have been in the 1930s, it is frustrating to see who gets off Scott-free and who bears the consequences.

Do you pass on books to your friends?

What should I read next?

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